It doesn’t matter if you’re 20, 30 or 40 years old. There are some things a guy should never say to a woman, regardless of whether you’re married, single or dating. Here is a list of phrases you should never tell a woman.
1. “My Ex-Girlfriend….”
Even if you tell us a million times you’re over the ex, we don’t want to hear about her. Every time you bring up her name, it makes us question whether you still have feelings for her. It also makes us question ourselves: are we not good enough? Do we not live up to her? This is the absolute worst thing to EVER say to a woman and under any condition.
2. “I don’t have a job.”
As women, we like to be taken care of physically and financially and not having a job makes us worry you aren’t secure in your life. A job tells a lot about a man and how he tackles life. If you’re in sales, we assume you are good with people. If you’re an accountant, we assume you’re stable. But when you say you don’t have a job, it leads us to question what this means for us. Does this mean sitting on the couch every night watching TV? No romantic dates or mini-vacations? As a woman, we don’t want to worry about our own finances, let alone yours. So if you don’t have a job, tell us what you’re doing to find one.
3. “I don’t know, what do you want to do?”
If we knew this, we wouldn’t ask. Letting us choose the date is sweet, but being completely indecisive is a huge turnoff. Impress us with your skills and pick a romantic restaurant or bar. It’s sexy when a man takes control and plans things on his own. It also shows us that you are confident with your decisions.
4. “Let’s split the bill.”
Unless you’re “just friends,” no man should ever let the woman pay on a date. If you asked us out, it’s your responsibility to pay for dinner. If you ask us to split the bill, we’ll assume you’re cheap. Paying for things is not only the gentleman thing to do but it also shows us that you are responsible and established. Women like that because it helps us decide if you are boyfriend or husband material.
5. “I’m not looking for a relationship right now.”
Most women are always looking to be in a relationship even if they say they aren’t. So this is kind of a let down for us. It’s one thing to let us know early on that you don’t want to get serious, but to string us along for months and then to spring this on us is selfish. Saying something like this will make us feel like we wasted our time, so say it early or don’t say it at all.
6. “You’re wearing that?”
Clearly if we put this outfit on our body, then yes it would make sense that this is what we’re wearing out. It probably took us 2-hours to get ready, not including the trips to different stores looking for the “perfect” accessory. Insulting our fashion sense is one of the worst things you can possibly do to a woman. Clothes are very important to us; we take pride in how we appear to others. Knocking our outfit will only put us in a bad mood and make us feel ugly for the rest of the night, which means you are going to have a terrible night too. So don’t ask us this.
7. “Shh..the game’s on.”
We understand sports are important to you but sometimes we need and want your attention. We don’t want to hear you shush us. Is it too much to look at us for 5-seconds as we ask a question?
8. “Chill Out” or “Just Relax”
Nothing is more irritating than hearing a guy say this. Telling us to chill out won’t fix the problem or make us feel better. There is something extremely irritating about these words. It makes us feel like we’re annoying little girls. If you say these words, no one will chill out because these are fighting words.
9. “Your friend is hot.”
So you’re saying you think she’s prettier than me? Do you have a crush on her? It’s one thing to have a celebrity crush that we know is completely unattainable, but it kind of scares us when we learn you might possibly have a crush on our friend. Keep these secrets to yourself.
10. “I’m the best….”
It’s a huge turnoff when men think they’re God’s gift to earth. Cockiness will get you absolutely nowhere with a woman. No woman (or person for that matter) wants to hear you constantly talk about yourself. Let us learn about your best attributes without telling us. Women like self-confidence in a man; it shows us that you are a balanced person who can take care of yourself and us, but we despise men with egos.